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May 10, 20242 min read

Overcoming Perfectionism

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Jul 16, 20221 min read

Emotion Dysregulation— What is that anyway?

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Oct 22, 20212 min read

Conflict in Your Relationships

If positive emotions feel rare in your life, it may not be because you’re failing at coping.

It may be because your life isn’t currently set up to allow them to happen.

This is where the DBT skill accumulating positives in the long term begins — with clarifying your values.

Pause and ask yourself:
What do I value?
What am I grateful for?
What actually matters to me?

Values aren’t something you complete or check off a to-do list. They guide what you prioritize — including what you say yes and no to.

When your days start to reflect your values, you create the conditions for positive emotions to show up, both now and over time.

If you’re interested in learning DBT skills, reach out for the upcoming entry period!

#dbttherapy #DBT #nassaucountyny #gardencitypsychologist #emotionregulation

If positive emotions feel rare in your life, it may not be because you’re failing at coping.

It may be because your life isn’t currently set up to allow them to happen.

This is where the DBT skill accumulating positives in the long term begins — with clarifying your values.

Pause and ask yourself:
What do I value?
What am I grateful for?
What actually matters to me?

Values aren’t something you complete or check off a to-do list. They guide what you prioritize — including what you say yes and no to.

When your days start to reflect your values, you create the conditions for positive emotions to show up, both now and over time.

If you’re interested in learning DBT skills, reach out for the upcoming entry period!

#dbttherapy #DBT #nassaucountyny #gardencitypsychologist #emotionregulation

In group, we’ll be reviewing emotion regulation this week.
If there’s one thing I want patients to take away from the next few weeks, it’s this:

Emotion regulation skills are lifestyle skills.

They’re the everyday things we do that reduce the impact of the stressors that inevitably come our way.
In DBT, we call this building emotional resilience—or more simply, building a cushion.

Emotion regulation isn’t what you’re doing during a crisis.
It’s what you’re doing before one shows up.

Are you underfed?
Sleep deprived?
Sedentary?
Overextended?
Running on empty?

Because when your baseline is already stretched thin, even small stressors can feel overwhelming.

Building the cushion doesn’t make life stress-free.
It makes it less destabilizing.

And that’s the goal.

#DBT #dbtskillstraining #emotionregulation #dbttherapy #gardencitypsychologist

In group, we’ll be reviewing emotion regulation this week.
If there’s one thing I want patients to take away from the next few weeks, it’s this:

Emotion regulation skills are lifestyle skills.

They’re the everyday things we do that reduce the impact of the stressors that inevitably come our way.
In DBT, we call this building emotional resilience—or more simply, building a cushion.

Emotion regulation isn’t what you’re doing during a crisis.
It’s what you’re doing before one shows up.

Are you underfed?
Sleep deprived?
Sedentary?
Overextended?
Running on empty?

Because when your baseline is already stretched thin, even small stressors can feel overwhelming.

Building the cushion doesn’t make life stress-free.
It makes it less destabilizing.

And that’s the goal.

#DBT #dbtskillstraining #emotionregulation #dbttherapy #gardencitypsychologist

Happy New Year! 🎆

Here’s to a year of gentleness, grounding, and choosing what supports your well‑being.

Happy New Year! 🎆

Here’s to a year of gentleness, grounding, and choosing what supports your well‑being.

Acceptance is acknowledging reality without the extra struggle.

“The house is messy.” Thats the skill.

#dbtskills #radicalacceptance #DBT #Nassaupsychologist #nypsychologist #dbttherapist #dbtskillstraining

Acceptance is acknowledging reality without the extra struggle.

“The house is messy.” Thats the skill.

#dbtskills #radicalacceptance #DBT #Nassaupsychologist #nypsychologist #dbttherapist #dbtskillstraining

Many people tell me they’ve been recommended DBT treatment but aren’t really sure what that means.

DBT (Dialectical Behavior Therapy) is a comprehensive treatment, and Skills Training is one important component of it. I want you to understand what that actually entails.

Skills group can sometimes sound intimidating—people often worry they’ll have to “bare” their soul in front of others. While there’s space for vulnerability, the focus is on learning practical skills that many of us wish we’d been taught earlier in life.

In group, we cover four modules designed to help you navigate emotions, relationships, and everyday stressors with more balance:
🌿 Mindfulness
💛 Emotion Regulation
🔥 Distress Tolerance
💬 Interpersonal Effectiveness

These are the tools that help you build a life that feels more manageable—and more meaningful.

📍Curious about joining or want to learn more? Send me a message or visit the link in my bio.

—Dr. Cecily Portillo, PhD, DBT-LBC

#DBTskills #dbtskillstraining #DBTtraining #dialecticalbehavioraltherapy #marshalinehan #dbtlbc #DBTtherapy #dbttherapist

Many people tell me they’ve been recommended DBT treatment but aren’t really sure what that means.

DBT (Dialectical Behavior Therapy) is a comprehensive treatment, and Skills Training is one important component of it. I want you to understand what that actually entails.

Skills group can sometimes sound intimidating—people often worry they’ll have to “bare” their soul in front of others. While there’s space for vulnerability, the focus is on learning practical skills that many of us wish we’d been taught earlier in life.

In group, we cover four modules designed to help you navigate emotions, relationships, and everyday stressors with more balance:
🌿 Mindfulness
💛 Emotion Regulation
🔥 Distress Tolerance
💬 Interpersonal Effectiveness

These are the tools that help you build a life that feels more manageable—and more meaningful.

📍Curious about joining or want to learn more? Send me a message or visit the link in my bio.

—Dr. Cecily Portillo, PhD, DBT-LBC

#DBTskills #dbtskillstraining #DBTtraining #dialecticalbehavioraltherapy #marshalinehan #dbtlbc #DBTtherapy #dbttherapist

A parent reached out to me for a private evaluation, and my first question was: “Have you tried requesting testing through the school?”

They were surprised — they didn’t know that was an option. And they’re not alone. Many families don’t realize they have this right.

✅ You don’t need proof.
If your child is consistently struggling — with reading, focusing, regulating emotions, or keeping up academically — that’s reason enough to request an evaluation.

✅ Schools must respond.
Once you submit a written request, the school is legally required to follow a timeline for consent and evaluation.

✅ Evaluations unlock support.
Results can open the door to accommodations, interventions, or services through an IEP or 504 Plan.

✅ Private evaluations offer deeper insight.
While school testing focuses primarily on eligibility for services, a comprehensive private evaluation can go further — helping clarify whether challenges are related to a learning disability, ADHD, or emotional and behavioral conditions such as anxiety or mood disorders.

This is where I can help. My assessments are designed to provide a full picture of a child’s cognitive, academic, emotional, and behavioral functioning. This information not only supports accurate diagnosis but also guides meaningful next steps — from therapy and classroom accommodations to treatment planning and skill-building.

💡 An evaluation is more than a report — it’s a roadmap. When we understand how a child learns, thinks, and feels, we can design the right support so they can thrive — both in and out of the classroom.

#psychologists #PSA #academicsupports #learningdisabilities #privatetesting #psychoeducationalevaluation #assessments #nassaucounty #childpsychologist

A parent reached out to me for a private evaluation, and my first question was: “Have you tried requesting testing through the school?”

They were surprised — they didn’t know that was an option. And they’re not alone. Many families don’t realize they have this right.

✅ You don’t need proof.
If your child is consistently struggling — with reading, focusing, regulating emotions, or keeping up academically — that’s reason enough to request an evaluation.

✅ Schools must respond.
Once you submit a written request, the school is legally required to follow a timeline for consent and evaluation.

✅ Evaluations unlock support.
Results can open the door to accommodations, interventions, or services through an IEP or 504 Plan.

✅ Private evaluations offer deeper insight.
While school testing focuses primarily on eligibility for services, a comprehensive private evaluation can go further — helping clarify whether challenges are related to a learning disability, ADHD, or emotional and behavioral conditions such as anxiety or mood disorders.

This is where I can help. My assessments are designed to provide a full picture of a child’s cognitive, academic, emotional, and behavioral functioning. This information not only supports accurate diagnosis but also guides meaningful next steps — from therapy and classroom accommodations to treatment planning and skill-building.

💡 An evaluation is more than a report — it’s a roadmap. When we understand how a child learns, thinks, and feels, we can design the right support so they can thrive — both in and out of the classroom.

#psychologists #PSA #academicsupports #learningdisabilities #privatetesting #psychoeducationalevaluation #assessments #nassaucounty #childpsychologist

In our DBT skills group this week, we’re diving into interpersonal effectiveness — and today, we started with a conversation about dialectics.

I kicked things off with a simple exercise using optical illusions. The instructions? 👉🏽 Find both images.

Dialectics is about holding more than one truth at the same time. It’s the practice of searching for another way of looking at a situation — even (and especially) when one perspective feels more obvious or “right.”

In a way, optical illusions give us a chance to practice this skill. They ask us to slow down, stay curious, and look beyond the first thing we see.

And this isn’t just a neat brain trick — it’s an essential skill in real life. In a world that often pushes us toward division and black-and-white thinking, dialectics helps us:
✨ Get unstuck by acknowledging the opposites.
✨ Stay flexible instead of rigid.
✨ Reduce conflict and find new ways forward.

So here’s your invitation: Can you find both images? And maybe more importantly — where in your life could you practice “finding the other perspective” too?

#DBT #dbtskillsgroup #dialectics #dialecticalbehaviortherapy #GardenCity #dbtskillstraining #mentalhealthtools #dialecticalthinking #DBTLBC #NYpsychologist #ClinicalPsychologist

In our DBT skills group this week, we’re diving into interpersonal effectiveness — and today, we started with a conversation about dialectics.

I kicked things off with a simple exercise using optical illusions. The instructions? 👉🏽 Find both images.

Dialectics is about holding more than one truth at the same time. It’s the practice of searching for another way of looking at a situation — even (and especially) when one perspective feels more obvious or “right.”

In a way, optical illusions give us a chance to practice this skill. They ask us to slow down, stay curious, and look beyond the first thing we see.

And this isn’t just a neat brain trick — it’s an essential skill in real life. In a world that often pushes us toward division and black-and-white thinking, dialectics helps us:
✨ Get unstuck by acknowledging the opposites.
✨ Stay flexible instead of rigid.
✨ Reduce conflict and find new ways forward.

So here’s your invitation: Can you find both images? And maybe more importantly — where in your life could you practice “finding the other perspective” too?

#DBT #dbtskillsgroup #dialectics #dialecticalbehaviortherapy #GardenCity #dbtskillstraining #mentalhealthtools #dialecticalthinking #DBTLBC #NYpsychologist #ClinicalPsychologist

The DBT Pros and Cons skill is designed to help you pause, step back, and make decisions that align with your long-term goals and values, especially when emotions are intense or urges feel overwhelming. You can make a pros/cons list for any URGES. This one is just an example of the urge to avoid and not avoid, but please feel free to use it for any urge you’re working on!

What it’s for:
• Managing strong urges (e.g., avoiding a task, quitting something important, acting on anger, self-sabotage).
• Breaking ineffective patterns by looking beyond short-term relief.
• Gaining clarity when both options feel uncomfortable.
• Strengthening Wise Mind—finding a balance between emotion and reason.

How it helps:
• It slows down impulsive reactions.
• It lays out the short-term and long-term consequences of action vs. inaction.
• It makes decision-making more intentional rather than reactive.

Found this helpful? Follow along for more DBT skills! This skill is within the Distress Tolerance module, which is actually the next module in both of my groups. If you’re interested in a skills group, reach out for further information!

#DBTskills #DBTtherapy #DistressTolerance #psychologist #nypsychologist #DBT #dialecticalbehavioraltherapy #DBTworks #DBTLBC #Gardencitypsychologist

The DBT Pros and Cons skill is designed to help you pause, step back, and make decisions that align with your long-term goals and values, especially when emotions are intense or urges feel overwhelming. You can make a pros/cons list for any URGES. This one is just an example of the urge to avoid and not avoid, but please feel free to use it for any urge you’re working on!

What it’s for:
• Managing strong urges (e.g., avoiding a task, quitting something important, acting on anger, self-sabotage).
• Breaking ineffective patterns by looking beyond short-term relief.
• Gaining clarity when both options feel uncomfortable.
• Strengthening Wise Mind—finding a balance between emotion and reason.

How it helps:
• It slows down impulsive reactions.
• It lays out the short-term and long-term consequences of action vs. inaction.
• It makes decision-making more intentional rather than reactive.

Found this helpful? Follow along for more DBT skills! This skill is within the Distress Tolerance module, which is actually the next module in both of my groups. If you’re interested in a skills group, reach out for further information!

#DBTskills #DBTtherapy #DistressTolerance #psychologist #nypsychologist #DBT #dialecticalbehavioraltherapy #DBTworks #DBTLBC #Gardencitypsychologist

We all have a Wise Mind — that deeper knowing that lives underneath the noise.

But when we’re in it (stressed, reactive, overwhelmed), it’s so easy to miss it.

Pausing matters.

Not to “calm down.”
Not to get it perfect.
But to give yourself a second to check in:
✨ What’s actually going on?
✨ What feels true beneath the spiral?

Wise Mind isn’t fancy.
It’s often quiet. Simple. And the pause before you react is what gets you there.

If you’ve often felt that you don’t have a wise mind, know that you do. You just have to learn how to slow down long enough to listen.

#WiseMind #DBTinRealLife #MentalHealthTools #SelfCompassion #DBTLBC #dbtskillstraining #Gardencity #dbttherapy

We all have a Wise Mind — that deeper knowing that lives underneath the noise.

But when we’re in it (stressed, reactive, overwhelmed), it’s so easy to miss it.

Pausing matters.

Not to “calm down.”
Not to get it perfect.
But to give yourself a second to check in:
✨ What’s actually going on?
✨ What feels true beneath the spiral?

Wise Mind isn’t fancy.
It’s often quiet. Simple. And the pause before you react is what gets you there.

If you’ve often felt that you don’t have a wise mind, know that you do. You just have to learn how to slow down long enough to listen.

#WiseMind #DBTinRealLife #MentalHealthTools #SelfCompassion #DBTLBC #dbtskillstraining #Gardencity #dbttherapy

People-pleasing is a really tough behavior to unlearn.
For a lot of us, we learned that being “good” was the safest way to avoid rejection and feel secure.

“Good” often meant agreeable.
Easygoing.
Self-sacrificing.
The kind of person who keeps everyone else comfortable—even when it comes at their own expense.

But people-pleasing isn’t the same as being kind.
It’s often rooted in fear:
Fear of disappointing others.
Fear of conflict.
Fear of not being liked—or loved.

Unlearning it means letting yourself take up space.
It means setting boundaries and knowing that someone else’s discomfort doesn’t make you a bad person.

It’s uncomfortable at first.
But it’s also where self-respect, connection, and real peace begin.

#DBTskills #DBTtherapy #interpersonaleffectiveness #psychologist #nypsychologist #DBT #dialecticalbehavioraltherapy #DBTworks #DBTLBC

People-pleasing is a really tough behavior to unlearn.
For a lot of us, we learned that being “good” was the safest way to avoid rejection and feel secure.

“Good” often meant agreeable.
Easygoing.
Self-sacrificing.
The kind of person who keeps everyone else comfortable—even when it comes at their own expense.

But people-pleasing isn’t the same as being kind.
It’s often rooted in fear:
Fear of disappointing others.
Fear of conflict.
Fear of not being liked—or loved.

Unlearning it means letting yourself take up space.
It means setting boundaries and knowing that someone else’s discomfort doesn’t make you a bad person.

It’s uncomfortable at first.
But it’s also where self-respect, connection, and real peace begin.

#DBTskills #DBTtherapy #interpersonaleffectiveness #psychologist #nypsychologist #DBT #dialecticalbehavioraltherapy #DBTworks #DBTLBC

Sometimes our teens feel so emotional that it’s hard to know how to respond. One minute they’re yelling, the next they’re shutting down—and you’re left wondering what just happened.

I was talking with a mom this week who said, “I keep trying to get through to her, but nothing is working.”

So I gently asked her:
Is the way you’re approaching her helping?
And if it’s not… what would it look like to try something different?

💬 One of the most powerful shifts we can make is learning to validate.
Not because we agree with everything, but because we’re saying:
“I see that this is real for you.”

When teens feel understood, they don’t have to fight so hard to be heard.

Validation is a skill. It takes practice. And we can work on it together—one moment, one messy interaction at a time.

#ParentingTeens #ValidationMatters #DBTskills #EmotionallySensitiveTeens #TherapistThoughts #ParentingSupport #dbtskills #dbtskillstraining

Sometimes our teens feel so emotional that it’s hard to know how to respond. One minute they’re yelling, the next they’re shutting down—and you’re left wondering what just happened.

I was talking with a mom this week who said, “I keep trying to get through to her, but nothing is working.”

So I gently asked her:
Is the way you’re approaching her helping?
And if it’s not… what would it look like to try something different?

💬 One of the most powerful shifts we can make is learning to validate.
Not because we agree with everything, but because we’re saying:
“I see that this is real for you.”

When teens feel understood, they don’t have to fight so hard to be heard.

Validation is a skill. It takes practice. And we can work on it together—one moment, one messy interaction at a time.

#ParentingTeens #ValidationMatters #DBTskills #EmotionallySensitiveTeens #TherapistThoughts #ParentingSupport #dbtskills #dbtskillstraining

When your child has a meltdown, the world might label them as “too sensitive.”
But DBT teaches us that what looks like dysregulation is often the result of emotional vulnerability + invalidating environments.

In other words, it’s not a flaw—it’s a transactional pattern.

Many sensitive kids experience high emotional sensitivity (a biosocial factor), which makes them more reactive to stress. When that sensitivity is met with judgment or dismissal, the cycle of dysregulation intensifies.

What helps break the cycle?

✅ Validation of internal experience (without reinforcing problematic behavior)
✅ Dialectics: hold both firmness and compassion—limits and understanding
✅ Co-regulation: use your wise mind to model regulation before teaching it
✅ Mindfulness of your own emotional cues—self-awareness precedes support

#DBTSKILLS #EMOTIONREGULATION #nassaucountypsychologist #DBTLBC #GardenCity #mindfulness #validation #dialectics #parentingsupport

When your child has a meltdown, the world might label them as “too sensitive.”
But DBT teaches us that what looks like dysregulation is often the result of emotional vulnerability + invalidating environments.

In other words, it’s not a flaw—it’s a transactional pattern.

Many sensitive kids experience high emotional sensitivity (a biosocial factor), which makes them more reactive to stress. When that sensitivity is met with judgment or dismissal, the cycle of dysregulation intensifies.

What helps break the cycle?

✅ Validation of internal experience (without reinforcing problematic behavior)
✅ Dialectics: hold both firmness and compassion—limits and understanding
✅ Co-regulation: use your wise mind to model regulation before teaching it
✅ Mindfulness of your own emotional cues—self-awareness precedes support

#DBTSKILLS #EMOTIONREGULATION #nassaucountypsychologist #DBTLBC #GardenCity #mindfulness #validation #dialectics #parentingsupport

Perfectionism often hides behind rules that feel logical… until they start running your life.

In DBT, we teach that emotions like fear, shame, and anxiety can drive perfectionism — not discipline. And we learn to unlearn those rules.

Want help breaking free? Start with noticing which of these shows up for you.

Share below!

#DBTskills #perfectionism #MentalHealthTherapist #NYTherapist #HighFunctioningAnxiety #DBTLBC #CBT #clinicalpsychologist #perfectionist #dbtcertifiedpractitioner #GardenCityPsychologist

Perfectionism often hides behind rules that feel logical… until they start running your life.

In DBT, we teach that emotions like fear, shame, and anxiety can drive perfectionism — not discipline. And we learn to unlearn those rules.

Want help breaking free? Start with noticing which of these shows up for you.

Share below!

#DBTskills #perfectionism #MentalHealthTherapist #NYTherapist #HighFunctioningAnxiety #DBTLBC #CBT #clinicalpsychologist #perfectionist #dbtcertifiedpractitioner #GardenCityPsychologist

Curious about what a skills group might look like ?!? Thought I’d come on here and answer a question I get allllll the time.

If you’re interested in more of this content, let me know what else you have questions about!

A reminder that the Wednesday Adult DBT skills group is launching over the summer (August 6th 2025) and will run from 5:30-7PM. I also have a daytime group on Thursdays 12-1:30PM that is accepting patients! Reach out if you’re interested in more info!

#dbtskills #DBTLBC #dbtskillstraining #dbtworks #dbtlbccertification #dbtcertified #marshalinehan #dbtlbc #DBT #dbtskills #dbtpsychologist #NYSpsychologist #CTpsychologist #clinicalpsychologist #privatepractice #CBT #DBT #mentalhealth #Longislandpsychologist #NassauCounty #DBTskillstraininggroup #dbtskillsgroup #virtualtherapy #emotionregulationskills #evidencebasedpractice
#mindfulness #gardencityny #DBTskills #dbttherapist

Curious about what a skills group might look like ?!? Thought I’d come on here and answer a question I get allllll the time.

If you’re interested in more of this content, let me know what else you have questions about!

A reminder that the Wednesday Adult DBT skills group is launching over the summer (August 6th 2025) and will run from 5:30-7PM. I also have a daytime group on Thursdays 12-1:30PM that is accepting patients! Reach out if you’re interested in more info!

#dbtskills #DBTLBC #dbtskillstraining #dbtworks #dbtlbccertification #dbtcertified #marshalinehan #dbtlbc #DBT #dbtskills #dbtpsychologist #NYSpsychologist #CTpsychologist #clinicalpsychologist #privatepractice #CBT #DBT #mentalhealth #Longislandpsychologist #NassauCounty #DBTskillstraininggroup #dbtskillsgroup #virtualtherapy #emotionregulationskills #evidencebasedpractice
#mindfulness #gardencityny #DBTskills #dbttherapist

Evening Adult DBT skills group launching at the end of July, Wednesdays at 5:30PM— reach out for a consultation!

The group is structured as a standard program, with a 6 month commitment requirement to complete one full cycle (additional cycles are possible if necessary). Emotion Regulation is the next module!

Patients are expected to schedule an intake appointment prior to starting to ensure it’s a good fit. This is a 45 minute appointment billed at $275. I am able to consult with individual therapists to provide collaborative care. Sliding scale is available and based on need. INN with Aetna insurance only and OON for all other insurances.

#dbtlbccertification #dbtcertified #marshalinehan #dbtlbc #DBT #dbtskills #dbtpsychologist #NYSpsychologist #CTpsychologist #clinicalpsychologist #privatepractice #CBT #DBT #mentalhealth #Longislandpsychologist #NassauCounty #DBTskillstraininggroup #dbtskillsgroup #virtualtherapy #emotionregulationskills #evidencebasedpractice
#mindfulness #gardencityny #DBTskills #dbttherapist

Evening Adult DBT skills group launching at the end of July, Wednesdays at 5:30PM— reach out for a consultation!

The group is structured as a standard program, with a 6 month commitment requirement to complete one full cycle (additional cycles are possible if necessary). Emotion Regulation is the next module!

Patients are expected to schedule an intake appointment prior to starting to ensure it’s a good fit. This is a 45 minute appointment billed at $275. I am able to consult with individual therapists to provide collaborative care. Sliding scale is available and based on need. INN with Aetna insurance only and OON for all other insurances.

#dbtlbccertification #dbtcertified #marshalinehan #dbtlbc #DBT #dbtskills #dbtpsychologist #NYSpsychologist #CTpsychologist #clinicalpsychologist #privatepractice #CBT #DBT #mentalhealth #Longislandpsychologist #NassauCounty #DBTskillstraininggroup #dbtskillsgroup #virtualtherapy #emotionregulationskills #evidencebasedpractice
#mindfulness #gardencityny #DBTskills #dbttherapist

Assessment is more than a diagnostic process – it’s about insight, direction, and growth. Struggling to understand learning, attention, or emotional challenges? A personalized assessment can provide the clarity and direction you need—whether for yourself or your child. Let’s uncover strengths, identify needs, and create a plan that works. 🧠

#assessment #psychologistsofinstagram #psychoeducationalassessment #testing

Assessment is more than a diagnostic process – it’s about insight, direction, and growth. Struggling to understand learning, attention, or emotional challenges? A personalized assessment can provide the clarity and direction you need—whether for yourself or your child. Let’s uncover strengths, identify needs, and create a plan that works. 🧠

#assessment #psychologistsofinstagram #psychoeducationalassessment #testing

Remembering and honoring those who gave their lives in service to our country. #MemorialDay

Remembering and honoring those who gave their lives in service to our country. #MemorialDay

Okay, look. DBT is not just individual therapy— it’s way more than that. If you’re ever looking for DBT therapy, make sure you ask the clinician whether they offer COMPREHENSIVE DBT. True DBT will offer all of these pieces.

As a DBT-Linehan Board of Certification, Certified Clinician™, Dr. Portillo provides structured individual, skills training in both individual and group settings, provides phone coaching and is also a part of a DBT team. Fidelity and adherence to the model makes all the difference in treatment. Dr. Portillo is only offering comprehensive to a few individuals at a time, so if you’re ready to commit, reach out!

#dbtskills #mindfulness #mindfulnesspractice #dbtlbc #NYpsychologist #nassaucounty #dbttherapy #mindfulvsmindfull #dbtskillsgroup #psychologist #DBT #dialecticalbehavioraltherapy

Okay, look. DBT is not just individual therapy— it’s way more than that. If you’re ever looking for DBT therapy, make sure you ask the clinician whether they offer COMPREHENSIVE DBT. True DBT will offer all of these pieces.

As a DBT-Linehan Board of Certification, Certified Clinician™, Dr. Portillo provides structured individual, skills training in both individual and group settings, provides phone coaching and is also a part of a DBT team. Fidelity and adherence to the model makes all the difference in treatment. Dr. Portillo is only offering comprehensive to a few individuals at a time, so if you’re ready to commit, reach out!

#dbtskills #mindfulness #mindfulnesspractice #dbtlbc #NYpsychologist #nassaucounty #dbttherapy #mindfulvsmindfull #dbtskillsgroup #psychologist #DBT #dialecticalbehavioraltherapy

Be a tulip in a rose garden.

In DBT, we teach that radical acceptance means embracing who you are—even if you feel different in a world that expects sameness.

You might feel like the tulip in a field of roses: a different temperament, emotional intensity, or way of seeing the world. That doesn’t mean something’s wrong with you.

Your job isn’t to blend in. It’s to honor your own shape, your own colors so you can learn to thrive as you.

#DBT #MentalHealth #RadicalAcceptance #Authenticity #PsychologistThoughts #TulipInARoseGarden #dbtlbc #nassaucounty #clinicalpsychologist #nypsychologist

Be a tulip in a rose garden.

In DBT, we teach that radical acceptance means embracing who you are—even if you feel different in a world that expects sameness.

You might feel like the tulip in a field of roses: a different temperament, emotional intensity, or way of seeing the world. That doesn’t mean something’s wrong with you.

Your job isn’t to blend in. It’s to honor your own shape, your own colors so you can learn to thrive as you.

#DBT #MentalHealth #RadicalAcceptance #Authenticity #PsychologistThoughts #TulipInARoseGarden #dbtlbc #nassaucounty #clinicalpsychologist #nypsychologist

Hey there!

Thanks for joining me ! Looking forward to sharing more of my work and expertise here on IG. If I can ever be of resource, don’t hesitate to reach out.

#clinicalpsychologist #privatepractice #mentalhealth #Longislandpsychologist #NassauCounty #gardencityny #NYSpsychologist #CTpsychologist #CBT #DBT #DBTskillstraininggroup #dbtskillsgroup #virtualtherapy
#mindfulness #gardencityny #DBTskills #dbttherapist #mindful #dbtlbc #dbtlbccertification

Hey there!

Thanks for joining me ! Looking forward to sharing more of my work and expertise here on IG. If I can ever be of resource, don’t hesitate to reach out.

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So excited to continue offering this Adult DBT Skills Group to residents of NY, CT & FL! We have an upcoming entry point on 6/5 and 6/12 and have room for 2 more participants!

Group is currently filled with supportive and engaged participants. If you’re interested in joining, reach out for a consultation !

Below is some additional information:

The group is structured as a standard program, with a 6 month commitment requirement to complete one full cycle (additional cycles are possible if necessary). Emotion Regulation is the next module!

Patients are expected to schedule an intake appointment prior to starting to ensure it’s a good fit. This is a 45 minute appointment billed at $275. I am able to consult with individual therapists to provide collaborative care. Sliding scale is available and based on need. INN with Aetna insurance only and OON for all other insurances.

So excited to continue offering this Adult DBT Skills Group to residents of NY, CT & FL! We have an upcoming entry point on 6/5 and 6/12 and have room for 2 more participants!

Group is currently filled with supportive and engaged participants. If you’re interested in joining, reach out for a consultation !

Below is some additional information:

The group is structured as a standard program, with a 6 month commitment requirement to complete one full cycle (additional cycles are possible if necessary). Emotion Regulation is the next module!

Patients are expected to schedule an intake appointment prior to starting to ensure it’s a good fit. This is a 45 minute appointment billed at $275. I am able to consult with individual therapists to provide collaborative care. Sliding scale is available and based on need. INN with Aetna insurance only and OON for all other insurances.

I often tell patients: “When you’re going for a walk, just go for a walk.” Don’t take your worries or anxiety with you—leave them behind.

Of course, your mind may still wander. It might pull you back to work stress or home responsibilities. That’s okay. Just notice it, and gently shift your attention back to the present moment.

Being mindful means grounding yourself in the here and now using your senses—what you see, hear, smell, and feel. The sunlight, the grass under your feet, the rhythm of your breath—that’s the present. That’s where peace lives.

Mindfulness isn’t about pushing thoughts away; it’s about choosing where to place your attention. And when we practice this consistently, it can reduce anxiety, increase happiness, and help us feel more in control of our lives.

So today, go for a walk—and just walk.

Interested in cultivating mindfulness skills in a supportive and engaging setting? Reach out for more information about joining my Adult DBT Skills group. Group is open to NY, CT and FL residents. The upcoming entry dates for group are June 5th & 12th!

#dbtskills #mindfulness #mindfulnesspractice #dbtlbc #NYpsychologist #nassaucounty #dbttherapy #mindfulvsmindfull #dbtskillsgroup #psychologist #DBT #dialecticalbehavioraltherapy

I often tell patients: “When you’re going for a walk, just go for a walk.” Don’t take your worries or anxiety with you—leave them behind.

Of course, your mind may still wander. It might pull you back to work stress or home responsibilities. That’s okay. Just notice it, and gently shift your attention back to the present moment.

Being mindful means grounding yourself in the here and now using your senses—what you see, hear, smell, and feel. The sunlight, the grass under your feet, the rhythm of your breath—that’s the present. That’s where peace lives.

Mindfulness isn’t about pushing thoughts away; it’s about choosing where to place your attention. And when we practice this consistently, it can reduce anxiety, increase happiness, and help us feel more in control of our lives.

So today, go for a walk—and just walk.

Interested in cultivating mindfulness skills in a supportive and engaging setting? Reach out for more information about joining my Adult DBT Skills group. Group is open to NY, CT and FL residents. The upcoming entry dates for group are June 5th & 12th!

#dbtskills #mindfulness #mindfulnesspractice #dbtlbc #NYpsychologist #nassaucounty #dbttherapy #mindfulvsmindfull #dbtskillsgroup #psychologist #DBT #dialecticalbehavioraltherapy

The DBT house of treatment is a metaphorical model that outlines the structure and progression of treatment. Each stage (or floor) has its own set of tools and treatment focus. It’s a great way to visualize progress for both patients and therapists— I often refer back to it in my work with patients.

What stage do you think you’re on?!

Ready to dive into therapy? Reach out for a free consultation via email admin@drcecilyportillo.com or on IG!

#dbtlbccertification #dbtcertified #marshalinehan #dbtlbc #DBT #dbtskills #dbtpsychologist #NYSpsychologist #CTpsychologist #clinicalpsychologist #privatepractice #CBT #DBT #mentalhealth #Longislandpsychologist #NassauCounty #DBTskillstraininggroup #dbtskillsgroup #virtualtherapy #emotionregulationskills #evidencebasedpractice
#mindfulness #gardencityny #DBTskills #dbttherapist #borderlinepersonalitydisorder #BPD #DBThouse #DBThouseoftreatment #DbtMetaphors

The DBT house of treatment is a metaphorical model that outlines the structure and progression of treatment. Each stage (or floor) has its own set of tools and treatment focus. It’s a great way to visualize progress for both patients and therapists— I often refer back to it in my work with patients.

What stage do you think you’re on?!

Ready to dive into therapy? Reach out for a free consultation via email admin@drcecilyportillo.com or on IG!

#dbtlbccertification #dbtcertified #marshalinehan #dbtlbc #DBT #dbtskills #dbtpsychologist #NYSpsychologist #CTpsychologist #clinicalpsychologist #privatepractice #CBT #DBT #mentalhealth #Longislandpsychologist #NassauCounty #DBTskillstraininggroup #dbtskillsgroup #virtualtherapy #emotionregulationskills #evidencebasedpractice
#mindfulness #gardencityny #DBTskills #dbttherapist #borderlinepersonalitydisorder #BPD #DBThouse #DBThouseoftreatment #DbtMetaphors

Living with a chronic illness is hard—really hard.
It’s not just about managing symptoms; it’s about managing everything else that comes with it: the emotions, the routines, the burnout.

Struggling with medical adherence? You’re not alone. Stress, frustration, grief, or feeling overwhelmed can all get in the way of sticking to treatment plans.

In my previous position at New York Presbyterian/Columbia University Medical Center I worked with many children, adolescents and parents on navigating CMI. Many of my patients struggled with adhering to their diabetes care or following through with medical recommendations. At times, their non adherence became life-threatening, which prompted their medical team to pursue medically-informed mental health providers.

As a clinical psychologist, I want to be able to consult with your broader medical team to give you the best possible care. If you or your loved one is struggling with navigating this new world post-news of a CMI, you’re not alone and it’s okay if you don’t have the answers.

I use a compassionate, skills-based approach grounded in Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) to support children, teens, and families facing the emotional and behavioral challenges of chronic illness. Together, we’ll work toward building a life that feels manageable, meaningful, and connected—even with a diagnosis in the picture.

#DBT #dbtskills #dbtpsychologist #NYSpsychologist #CTpsychologist #clinicalpsychologist #privatepractice #CBT #DBT #mentalhealth #Longislandpsychologist #NassauCounty #DBTskillstraininggroup #dbtskillsgroup #virtualtherapy #emotionregulationskills #evidencebasedpractice
#mindfulness #gardencityny #DBTskills #chronicmedicalillness #diabetes #CMI #DBTCMI #healthpsychologist

Living with a chronic illness is hard—really hard.
It’s not just about managing symptoms; it’s about managing everything else that comes with it: the emotions, the routines, the burnout.

Struggling with medical adherence? You’re not alone. Stress, frustration, grief, or feeling overwhelmed can all get in the way of sticking to treatment plans.

In my previous position at New York Presbyterian/Columbia University Medical Center I worked with many children, adolescents and parents on navigating CMI. Many of my patients struggled with adhering to their diabetes care or following through with medical recommendations. At times, their non adherence became life-threatening, which prompted their medical team to pursue medically-informed mental health providers.

As a clinical psychologist, I want to be able to consult with your broader medical team to give you the best possible care. If you or your loved one is struggling with navigating this new world post-news of a CMI, you’re not alone and it’s okay if you don’t have the answers.

I use a compassionate, skills-based approach grounded in Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) to support children, teens, and families facing the emotional and behavioral challenges of chronic illness. Together, we’ll work toward building a life that feels manageable, meaningful, and connected—even with a diagnosis in the picture.

#DBT #dbtskills #dbtpsychologist #NYSpsychologist #CTpsychologist #clinicalpsychologist #privatepractice #CBT #DBT #mentalhealth #Longislandpsychologist #NassauCounty #DBTskillstraininggroup #dbtskillsgroup #virtualtherapy #emotionregulationskills #evidencebasedpractice
#mindfulness #gardencityny #DBTskills #chronicmedicalillness #diabetes #CMI #DBTCMI #healthpsychologist

Supporting a teen through depression is incredibly hard. When your child is struggling, it’s easy to feel like you have to hold everything together. But just like your teen needs support, you do too.

Parents often tell me how frustrating and helpless they feel when they don’t fully understand what their teen is going through.

But here’s what I remind them: You don’t have to have all the answers to be a powerful support. Your presence, your patience, and your willingness to walk beside your teen—even in the dark—are incredibly meaningful.

You’re not failing—you’re showing up. And that matters more than you know.

If you’re navigating this journey, I’m here to support you. Whether you’re looking for guidance, resources, or someone to walk alongside you, I invite you to reach out.

You can contact me directly at: admin@drcecilyportillo.com

— Dr. Cecily Portillo

#DBT #dbtskills #dbtpsychologist #NYSpsychologist #CTpsychologist #clinicalpsychologist #privatepractice #CBT #DBT #mentalhealth #Longislandpsychologist #NassauCounty #DBTskillstraininggroup #dbtskillsgroup #virtualtherapy #emotionregulationskills #evidencebasedpractice
#mindfulness #gardencityny #DBTskills #borderlinepersonalitydisorder #BPD #depression #depressedteen #adolescents #parentingsupport #parentswithteens

Supporting a teen through depression is incredibly hard. When your child is struggling, it’s easy to feel like you have to hold everything together. But just like your teen needs support, you do too.

Parents often tell me how frustrating and helpless they feel when they don’t fully understand what their teen is going through.

But here’s what I remind them: You don’t have to have all the answers to be a powerful support. Your presence, your patience, and your willingness to walk beside your teen—even in the dark—are incredibly meaningful.

You’re not failing—you’re showing up. And that matters more than you know.

If you’re navigating this journey, I’m here to support you. Whether you’re looking for guidance, resources, or someone to walk alongside you, I invite you to reach out.

You can contact me directly at: admin@drcecilyportillo.com

— Dr. Cecily Portillo

#DBT #dbtskills #dbtpsychologist #NYSpsychologist #CTpsychologist #clinicalpsychologist #privatepractice #CBT #DBT #mentalhealth #Longislandpsychologist #NassauCounty #DBTskillstraininggroup #dbtskillsgroup #virtualtherapy #emotionregulationskills #evidencebasedpractice
#mindfulness #gardencityny #DBTskills #borderlinepersonalitydisorder #BPD #depression #depressedteen #adolescents #parentingsupport #parentswithteens

Chronic medical conditions like Type 1 diabetes—often diagnosed between ages 4 and 14—don’t just affect the body. They can take a toll on a child’s mental health, increasing the risk for anxiety, depressed mood, and even suicidal thoughts.

If you’re a parent feeling overwhelmed or unsure how to support your child emotionally, you’re not alone. A psychologist with experience in chronic illness can help your family navigate these challenges with compassion and care.

Dr. Portillo understands how chronic illness can affect not only the child, but the entire family. If you’re wondering how therapy can help, reach out today for a free consultation.

#diabetes #type1diabetes #chronicmedicalness #childpsychologist #dbtlbc #DBT #dbtskills #dbtpsychologist #NYSpsychologist #CTpsychologist #clinicalpsychologist #privatepractice #CBT #DBT #mentalhealth #Longislandpsychologist #NassauCounty #DBTskillstraininggroup #dbtskillsgroup #virtualtherapy #emotionregulationskills #evidencebasedpractice
#mindfulness #gardencityny #DBTskills #dbttherapist

Chronic medical conditions like Type 1 diabetes—often diagnosed between ages 4 and 14—don’t just affect the body. They can take a toll on a child’s mental health, increasing the risk for anxiety, depressed mood, and even suicidal thoughts.

If you’re a parent feeling overwhelmed or unsure how to support your child emotionally, you’re not alone. A psychologist with experience in chronic illness can help your family navigate these challenges with compassion and care.

Dr. Portillo understands how chronic illness can affect not only the child, but the entire family. If you’re wondering how therapy can help, reach out today for a free consultation.

#diabetes #type1diabetes #chronicmedicalness #childpsychologist #dbtlbc #DBT #dbtskills #dbtpsychologist #NYSpsychologist #CTpsychologist #clinicalpsychologist #privatepractice #CBT #DBT #mentalhealth #Longislandpsychologist #NassauCounty #DBTskillstraininggroup #dbtskillsgroup #virtualtherapy #emotionregulationskills #evidencebasedpractice
#mindfulness #gardencityny #DBTskills #dbttherapist

In DBT, acceptance isn’t giving up—it’s choosing to stop fighting reality.

Imagine standing at a crossroads.

One path twists and turns through resistance, denial, and emotional chaos. That’s the road of nonacceptance. It might feel powerful at first—but it often keeps us stuck in pain that doesn’t change.

The other path? That’s the road of acceptance. It might look peaceful, even sunny—but let’s be clear: acceptance is not the easy route. It takes strength to acknowledge reality as it is, especially when it hurts.

Acceptance doesn’t mean approval. It means letting go of the battle with “what should be,” so you can start walking toward “what is.”

Which path are you on today?

#dbtcertified #marshalinehan #dbtlbc #DBT #dbtskills #dbtpsychologist #NYSpsychologist #CTpsychologist #clinicalpsychologist #privatepractice #CBT #DBT #mentalhealth #Longislandpsychologist #NassauCounty #DBTskillstraininggroup #dbtskillsgroup #virtualtherapy #emotionregulationskills #evidencebasedpractice
#mindfulness #gardencityny #DBTskills #dbttherapist #borderlinepersonalitydisorder #BPD #validation #radicalacceptance

In DBT, acceptance isn’t giving up—it’s choosing to stop fighting reality.

Imagine standing at a crossroads.

One path twists and turns through resistance, denial, and emotional chaos. That’s the road of nonacceptance. It might feel powerful at first—but it often keeps us stuck in pain that doesn’t change.

The other path? That’s the road of acceptance. It might look peaceful, even sunny—but let’s be clear: acceptance is not the easy route. It takes strength to acknowledge reality as it is, especially when it hurts.

Acceptance doesn’t mean approval. It means letting go of the battle with “what should be,” so you can start walking toward “what is.”

Which path are you on today?

#dbtcertified #marshalinehan #dbtlbc #DBT #dbtskills #dbtpsychologist #NYSpsychologist #CTpsychologist #clinicalpsychologist #privatepractice #CBT #DBT #mentalhealth #Longislandpsychologist #NassauCounty #DBTskillstraininggroup #dbtskillsgroup #virtualtherapy #emotionregulationskills #evidencebasedpractice
#mindfulness #gardencityny #DBTskills #dbttherapist #borderlinepersonalitydisorder #BPD #validation #radicalacceptance

‼️🚨ATTENTION ‼️🚨NY, CT & FL— The Adult DBT Skills Group is launching April 17, 2025 from 12:00-1:30PM. Entry until April 24th, 2025! If you’re interested in joining this cohort, reach out for next steps.

Missed this entry period ? Entry points occur every 4-6 weeks! Reach out for the next follow up entry period.

Interested, but unsure about how skills group can support your current treatment? Reach out for a consultation!

#dbtcertified #marshalinehan #dbtlbc #DBT #dbtskills #dbtpsychologist #NYSpsychologist #CTpsychologist #clinicalpsychologist #privatepractice #CBT #DBT #mentalhealth #Longislandpsychologist #NassauCounty #DBTskillstraininggroup #dbtskillsgroup #virtualtherapy #emotionregulationskills #evidencebasedpractice
#mindfulness #gardencityny #DBTskills #dbttherapist #borderlinepersonalitydisorder #BPD #validation #biosocialtheory

‼️🚨ATTENTION ‼️🚨NY, CT & FL— The Adult DBT Skills Group is launching April 17, 2025 from 12:00-1:30PM. Entry until April 24th, 2025! If you’re interested in joining this cohort, reach out for next steps.

Missed this entry period ? Entry points occur every 4-6 weeks! Reach out for the next follow up entry period.

Interested, but unsure about how skills group can support your current treatment? Reach out for a consultation!

#dbtcertified #marshalinehan #dbtlbc #DBT #dbtskills #dbtpsychologist #NYSpsychologist #CTpsychologist #clinicalpsychologist #privatepractice #CBT #DBT #mentalhealth #Longislandpsychologist #NassauCounty #DBTskillstraininggroup #dbtskillsgroup #virtualtherapy #emotionregulationskills #evidencebasedpractice
#mindfulness #gardencityny #DBTskills #dbttherapist #borderlinepersonalitydisorder #BPD #validation #biosocialtheory

Dialectical Behavior Therapy for Post-Traumatic Stress (DBT-PE) is a powerful, evidence-based treatment that combines the mindfulness and emotional regulation skills of DBT with trauma-focused approaches to help individuals heal from PTSD and trauma.

DBT-PE helps you process traumatic experiences, manage overwhelming emotions, and build a life full of meaning and balance. It’s designed to support those dealing with trauma to create lasting change in their lives.

If you or someone you know is struggling with trauma or PTSD, DBT-PE could be the step toward healing. Reach out to Dr. Portillo to learn more!

#DBTPE #TraumaRecovery #PTSDHealing #dbtlbccertification #dbtcertified #marshalinehan #dbtlbc #DBT #dbtskills #NYSpsychologist #CTpsychologist #clinicalpsychologist #privatepractice #CBT #DBT #mentalhealth #Longislandpsychologist #NassauCounty #DBTskillstraininggroup #dbtskillsgroup #virtualtherapy #emotionregulationskills #evidencebasedpractice
#mindfulness #gardencityny #DBTskills #dbttherapist #borderlinepersonalitydisorder #BPD #validation #biosocialtheory

Dialectical Behavior Therapy for Post-Traumatic Stress (DBT-PE) is a powerful, evidence-based treatment that combines the mindfulness and emotional regulation skills of DBT with trauma-focused approaches to help individuals heal from PTSD and trauma.

DBT-PE helps you process traumatic experiences, manage overwhelming emotions, and build a life full of meaning and balance. It’s designed to support those dealing with trauma to create lasting change in their lives.

If you or someone you know is struggling with trauma or PTSD, DBT-PE could be the step toward healing. Reach out to Dr. Portillo to learn more!

#DBTPE #TraumaRecovery #PTSDHealing #dbtlbccertification #dbtcertified #marshalinehan #dbtlbc #DBT #dbtskills #NYSpsychologist #CTpsychologist #clinicalpsychologist #privatepractice #CBT #DBT #mentalhealth #Longislandpsychologist #NassauCounty #DBTskillstraininggroup #dbtskillsgroup #virtualtherapy #emotionregulationskills #evidencebasedpractice
#mindfulness #gardencityny #DBTskills #dbttherapist #borderlinepersonalitydisorder #BPD #validation #biosocialtheory

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